Personally I think that any parent who feels a child is better off with divorced parents is being selfish (unless there is abuse or other serious issues). My parents divorced when I was 8 and rarely a week goes by when I am not still reminded of the pain and heartache that caused me and my sister. It still impacts my life and the lives of my children.
Maybe I got on a little soap box there. I apologize. Tostada, I'm pulling for you and hope she finds some oxygen.