I wonder, should I require him to inform me if he travels out of state? I do have 2 S's at home. What if something was to happen to me or them? But, is it in improper request that I be informed?
H won't call me or S19 unless H needs something. But is in daily contact with S15. I hate having to ask S15 if he knows where his Dad is if I need him (sometimes he doesn't know either). I don't want S15 to feel like he's betraying him.
This is hard to handle, even if you are like me and Dd and the XH is remarried. Feeling like you need to know where they are "just in case." And feeling so awkward, having to ask the children.
Does your H have a cell phone? If so, then I would say let it go, it is just one of the thousands of things in this process that we cannot control.
If your H doesn't have a cell phone, then I think it is legitimate to ask him to let you know where he can be reached, incase of an emergency with one of the kids. If he refuses to tell you, that is his choice and his right, self-absorbed as it may be.
I no longer expect to know where XH is unless he is traveling with my S15. Sometimes he tells me, but more often he does not. I believe S15 usually knows, I try to refrain from asking although I'm not always successful at it!
