What do you mean "Yikes, don't write that letter" ???
I thought you said,
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Yes, wish THEM well, *support* her selfishness, don't let her see you as the bad guy or parent trying to convince or control her. She will eventually realize she is hurting the kids on her own. This HAS to be on her own. Otherwise she'll always associate it with you and think of it as manipulation.
Yes, you can say, your first choice would be to stay together, and you would like to have your family together, but you can also say you care about her (even if there's larger part of you that would rather throw a cherry pie in her face) and would want her to decide where she'll be happiest, and wish her the best in the future.... And you'll be fine because you really don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you.
do ya mean I should only say these things, and not write them?
M 43 S14 S13 D11 D7 Divorce final: Jan 2009 Making it up as I go....
