well, all hell broke loose, it is over and done

[ACJ]

Cat,
I'm feeling your pain. My H did something similar. We had a brief split during 2004 during which he had an affair (I since found out he had already cheated on me prior to that but that is a different story). He had been home about 16 months when this latest episode kicked off (Nov 2005). Like your H has asked you mine wanted to know what I wanted him to do. I made it clear that I made my decision when he came home previously and was standing by it (ie I wanted him with me). He however chose to leave and from what I can tell has not looked back since. So it is a gamble but at least I know deep in my heart that we are apart b/c of a decision he made and not me. I think he would have left either way he just wanted me to make it easy for him. In English law he can only D me at the moment if I agree to it or if he can prove unreasonable behaviour on my part (which he is looking to do b/c I won't consent to a D). That too is a gamble but again if it ends in a D it will be due to his actions and not mine. Don't get me wrong I am not being sanctimonious about this but I am a firm believer that people can only regret thier own actions and not those of another.

So in essence I am agreeing with all the other posters here but just pointing out that it doesn't always work out the way you might envision it (at least not yet)