I posted elsewhere on this site but only received one response. Since this is what I beleive is happening in my R, I put my basic situation and questions in the mid-life section: Me: 53 Wife: 45 Married: 10 years Son: 9 Daughter: 6 The ILYBNILWY Bomb drop: mid Oct 2007
It seems my W has many, if not most, of the symptoms of a mid-life crisis as they apply to women. Feeling trapped by the M, no longer in love with me, obsessed by her looks, wants a pick-up truck, wants to raise horses, wants to sing on stage, etc., etc. She also had a brief PA with someone 20 years younger. Fortunately, the guy lives several states away and has no cell phone or computer.
After a couple of MC sessions that went nowhere, my wife decided that she has to move out. So, she found a place and will be moving out in early February. However, she does not want to divorce, even though she doesn't see us getting back together.
Most of the past two months have been fairly amicable (and painful), I've mostly done a good job at being detached (with a few bad slip-ups) and realize that there is absolutley no chance of us getting back together without a separation.
I've also seen an attorney and know how I can protect my assets going forward. I am working on myself (for myself and nor for her) and am essentially planning to be the best Dad I can be to my kids
Here are my questions....... 1. How much (or little) should I see her once we are both in separate places. My instinct is to see her as little as possible but to be nice during the times I do have to see or interact with her becasue of the kids. 2. My W thinks we should still get together as a family on Sundays. This strikes me as weird, because we're not a family and it seems like she is trying to have it all ways. I'd like to believe that several months or a year on her own in the real world will help make her come to her senses and that the more we act like a family that is still intact, the less likey she will be to realize what she's given up.
Any other thoughts or advice would be appreciated. L7
