You know Amy I think that's where most of us are actually failing. We get so focused on DBing and saving/rebuilding our marriages we loss sight of what's important, why and the impact it has on our spouses, families and OURSELVES.
DBing is about getting yourself back in shape but we get focused on "strategies" to win back our spouses. Really we are scheming which means trying to control someone else and get them to bend to our will. In DBing terms we are PURSUING which DBing tells us is a big no-no. Oh I am definitely the pot calling kettles black here and this is another thought I had a hard time wrapping my head around. I think this is especially true for us men because we expect ourselves to be responsible for our families.
For you, you can't confuse responsibility with compassion and support. Remember you can't do "it" for you husband and from a lot of what I have seen you post over the last year plus is you've been trying to do "it" for him. Let God do "it" for him and you give him the support, compassion and love he needs.
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
