Yesterday was H's evening w/ the Ds. He called before I took D to the rink to say he couldn't be there right away. Told him it was ok as I had a meeting there. At least he rememebered he was supposed to pick her up. Still can't remember the time though. After I left H was beeping in on my phone while I was on a call. I ignored his. When I listened to the message it was something trivial again, but I called him to answer his question. Didn't tell him where I was or my plans for the evening. At the time I was shopping then heading to a meeting at church.
H sent me another not so important text while I was at the meeting. I sent him a simple answer. The meeting went later than I thought it would so I sent him a msg. to put D10 to bed. I felt bad going home because it was much later than H normally stays and he had a 20 min. drive. I apologized for being so late and asked him to send me a text when he got there. H said he would be fine and I didn't need to worry. I told him I do worry. Not sure that was the right thing to say and I was wishing I could take it back. Much to my surprise I got a text as I was going to bed to let me know he made it. I sent a thank you and got a you're welcome back. I took that as a big "small" positive. H hasn't let me know in a long time when he is late, gets somewhere or anything.
I have come to realize the last few days that I have not detached enough. I need to put some serious thought into goals and set some.
