No, H is not a workaholic. He is an entrepreneur which makes his hours irregular. I work the same # of hours as he. Changing his job to a 9/5 kinda thing would only kill his spirit and cause resentment. Being an entrepreneur isn't a job it is who he is.
He learned long ago that doing his job & keeping on top of his own need for rest requires quarterly vacations - we do that (one is an annual guy trip), a long weekend a few times/year that is with me or for a race os something and limiting his travel schedule. His office is in the house but he does a pretty good job of not going in there on family time. Family time is worth setting aside things for, private time is not.
And Dom - it ain't about the money. Some years he earns 2 or 3 times my salary and some years we are neck and neck. In a particularly bad year it might be mostly up to me. Luckily, H is good at what he does and he sometimes turns down work so as not to overfill the schedule. Sometimes there are just "runs" on work like what is happening now. My job and paycheck aren't glamorous but it keeps us paid regularly & with affordable health insurace. We do not have a high need for "stuff". We live very modestly although the DC/Metro area is an expensive area to live in.
