Thanks for all your kind wishes and prayers for my brother! I do believe they help! Thanks for the advice, Theoden! I will try to restrain (leash) my lawyer if I hire her tomorrow! My brother insisted I see her and my therapist advised me to see one as well although she says she normally never does when the person doesn't want to divorce because of the fact that H is a lawyer and money has been disappearing. I think H is just having to get hotel rooms since they are both married.
I would like to just basically do any prep work or investigative work that needs to be done, so if and when he files for divorce we are prepared for it. H has also told me that he wants to lie to the Courts about me being crazy (although he does not believe I am) now that I have gotten a depression diagnosis from my therapist so I won't be able to homeschool the kids b/c he doesn't want to support me after the divorce and doesn't want to have to pay for it. From what he says he basically doesn't want to have to impact his life much after the divorce, but impact the kids and my life completely so I do want to try to prevent much of that if possible.
It is a no-fault state, so that's not in my favor, but I have been keeping records for the past few weeks of his comings and goings, and he has been gone about 75 hours a week with his job and girlfriend and running(he works about 45 hours a week), so I think that will help my cause with custody. Even when he is home, he doesn't spend time with the kids, but works outside or spends time emailing the OW. It is sad! I am going to ask the divorce attorney about that. He also has talked about living with the OW and combining time with the OW and the children (doesn't want to see them separately after the divorce) so I think that shows some poor judgment as well or would at least not sound well to the Judge in the case. He has talked about being able to get full custody b/c of my depression, but I think all my attorney would have to do is say with that husband what normal woman wouldn't be depressed, don't you think? Or something like that? And I've gotten treatment and therapy, so I don't think he will get too far with that, I would hope.
To end on a positive note, I am a lot happier actually now that my brother seems to be doing good and has a good prognosis! I was obviously happy last night as well. It was interesting when H got home last night, at 8 as usual after being with the OW; I wasn't upset at all last night, b/c I was so happy about my brother, that instead of dodging me like usual, I noticed he spent an hour with D8 and I last night which is not at all his usual pattern. I don't expect that will happen again or anything, but thought that was interesting. Karen43
