I am hopeful and will ride this out

[mako_man]

I have read this thread and am in a similar sitch, 'cept the OM is already out of the picture and I we have been seperated for 7 mos. My stbx is still confused, doesnt know what she wants, wants a D one day then doesnt really know. I filed when she left and sued for primary cust as well (3 daughters), temp hearing already occured and currently we have a 50/50 split. I will tell you this, as much as you SAY you want this D, and are ready for it I do hear you waffle from time to time. Getting a D is NOT the best thing, its the worst outcome, why let HER off the hook? If she wants to do her thing, then do yours, having the D hanging over the both of you right now is just added pressure. Mine is on "hold" at the moment, and I have just started dating. All I am saying is dont be pressured into it out of anger or for ANY reason other than you absolutely know its the right thing to do.