I may try the DB coaching since I can't afford to get another therapist. The one I was seeing was rather reasonably priced. You get what you pay for, right?
I have taken some responsibility for my part in the split when I wrote the note to H about my part in the step-d problem. There is more I can do.
H asked to come over to look for some papers he can't find, so I could be helpful as hell and cheerful as well. At first, I was thinking I wouldn't let him come over and was going to tell him I didn't think it was appropriate anymore since he left. And besides, I never ask to come to his place. I don't even ask where he lives and I know he took a lot of papers that I need.
I guess when he comes, I could put on a pot of coffee and be civil, but not overly eager.
