I am sick as hell, woke up on the couch a few minutes ago barely able to breath, took some medicine and decided to catch up here while it was kicking in and now I've gotta be mean.
I read twice over the last 24 hours that Frank actually saved himself two years ago while claiming he saved his wife and ultimately, the marriage.
Well, that's bullcrap.
Frank, you did not save anything because you have to save yourself first and you failed to do that or you would not be where you are today. Secondly, it is not possible for you to "save" your wife.
The process of saving yourself when you were a LBS became retarded when your wife started responding to the changes you made back then; your Alpha male personna, so to speak. You thrived off that because it validated your need to be the hero. You however, failed to finish the job by continuing to look to yourself for your answers. And far be it for a man of your "intellect" to look to God. Nothing was saved. It was merely pre-empted for a time. Afterwards, you became complacent and suffered NOT because your wife lacked the ability to take care of you emotionally, but because you never learned to do that for yourself. You define yourself by the success of what you DO, be it save your business or save your marriage, and that is jacked up.
You have slipped back into talking more about your wife than your own self-discovery. Oh, you're using the words, but I'm not reading much about the revelations.
Additionally, I'm hearing the word "detach" and I'd like you to consider a different word instead:
Autonomous.
That should be your goal.
To function INDEPENDENTLY of what is going on AROUND you.
What will it take for that to happen? For you to eventually no longer be moved by her ever-changing attitudes, moods and behaviors?
