Real Growing and Healing 2

[Michael Mc C]

She only measures her life with me by what she DOESN'T have. Not by what she DOES have.

I want a wife who appreciates me even when I'm down.

I see nothing here indicating that you feel you are owed anything but instead I see disappointment. You busted your ass 2 years ago for your marriage. You helped your wife grow. I'd be disappointed (as I am in my own sitch) to find out that my wife had not outgrown her tendency to run from issues hoping to find that fantasy life where everything goes according to plan.

Frank, it looks like you are able to better see what is lacking in your wife. You already know that this isn't something you can fix but I bet it sure as sh*t helps you get a better feel of what YOU need and what YOU want.

I don't believe you can fix YOU without knowing what's missing from the big picture. Although your marriage does not define you, it is still a very big part of who you are and therefore must be part of your self-analysis. I think these are very important revelations for you.