HELP!! my 25 y/o H walked out... maybe mlc? HELP!!

[darkestangel]

I did baby H alot though. Even when we had NOOO money, he bought every video game and dvd that came out. He would stay home for a week or two at a time (he's union). He would buy $300 comic book figurines. He always joked that when it came to him, I was a "chump", as in I always spoiled him.

Near the end, maybe I resented that he wasn't willing to sacrifice anything material for the betterment of our family. Maybe he resented that since I didn't indulge the way he did, he always felt guilty.

Maybe right now, he justifies his affair because maybe he thinks, "She's a chump- she'll take me back." He's told me that I always put him and d3 first, before myself.

How do I 180 that? To NOT do things for him? I haven't done things/favors for him, but I haven't been cold to him. I've let him take care of his own messes (financially and whatnot) but when we talk, we usually have a friendly banter going on.

I will not call him, unless there is an emergency. I will not myspace him, or email him. I'm starting to think going dark is my only option.

Friday is d3's birthday. Maybe I should go dark after that?