Of course he should know what's going on with the kids. The thing is, you have to do it without "blamimg" him (after all he left, it's his fault!). Asking for his counsel with "S is really angy how do we help him express himself?" Might be more helpful (esp in the long run). If you need to tell him something keep it to just facts and if you have to reherse it in the mirror to see how it looks as well as sounds.
lmg,
There is nothing that is inevitable (except death eventually). Please forgive me for being blunt, but does your age have something to do with your feeling you'd want to be ready for something sooner than later? I ask this b/c it's an issue I have. I'm older than you and as much as I hate it it comes into play that I'm not the cute young thing (ok, never really was) and it doesn't help to see men my age with very young women. Having said that, I truly believe that I will have the R of my dreams, regardless of what happens.
