Well, I slapped that crazy angry BobbiJo around a little bit and I think she calmed down some.
I am still upset he didn't talk to me, but since it is a big WORK problem and Jordan is a co-worker I am sure H wants to talk to him bc Jordan "gets" what H deals with with Boss and Big Boss since he is there everyday living it himself.
Just wish it hadn't turned into some kind of blowout, but that was H's decision and I can't turn back the clock. For some reason it was the "forget it" in his TM, "Text if the kids are sick otherwise forget it we'll talk tomorrow". I felt like the forget it totally dismissed me. Then the "We'll talk tomorrow" like he is in charge of everything in our R. Oh yeah, he is....Oops crabby BobbiJo is trying to re-emerge!!
Anyway I am going to do my best to BE A DUCK. Let it roll. Go to bed--I have a pounding migraine that only got worse with our phone exchange. Wake up tomorrow as a new day. He said we are going to talk tomorrow. I will just have to trust that. I won't try to reach H, esp. with the workplace drama I won't even want to call there anyway. So I will go about my day and if he wants to talk, we'll deal with it then. If not, I continue to do my own thing tomorrow. And I have sub jobs lined up for Thurs. and Fri. so at least I know I am busy on those two days.
The only dealbreaker in this cease-fire for me is if he stays out all night again. He came home last Tuesday, but the Tuesday before he texted me (after being out w/Jordan) that he drank too much and was getting a hotel room so as not to drive drunk....Since then he has admitted to me that on a few occasions he has drank too much trying to avoid his troubles. Only 2 or three times in last 6 weeks so I don't think it is a major problem yet.
BUT-- 1)I can live with him moving out to an apartment 2)I can live with him moving to Omaha and me staying here 3)I can live with him going out w/a buddy to blow off steam 4)I CANNOT live with him supposedly living in our home but staying out all night. It is too stressful for me bc even though I am not supposed to worry, I do. If he were in the apartment I wouldn't know the difference, which would actually be easier.
So if he stays out all night I don't know if I will want to talk at all. Otherwise, new day, new chance to see where things stand....
