New -Devestated and Feeling Hopeless

[fooled again]

Oh Ellis, Breathe, breathe, breathe, slowly and evenly.

I'm so sorry your H is being such an immature child. It's not enough that he is ripping apart your world, but he is dumping his sh*t on you, the guilt and the distress he is feeling from the hassle of the legal repercussions of his actions. Well I suppose if nothing else, it makes you more determined to get stronger so he can't just walk in and do what he wants. Remember, he left and until he is willing to be mature and civil, you have every right to deny him entry. After all, it's not his home anymore.

My H was pissed off when I asked him for the keys to the house. I told him I needed to set boundaries. You need to set them too, probably more severe than mine were, but you should insist on him giving you an hour minimum notice before coming to the house, or whatever you feel is right. Remember that you do have control over your own life, and you need to take that control and let him know what you will not tolerate.

Have a bubble bath w/ your D - that's what I usually do when I feel terrible, and it always makes me feel better!

Take care of yourself.
FA