I am surprised you are not the WAW considering how uncertain which state (Missouri, Iowa, Nebraska) you are going to be living in next.
Consider yourself lucky that your H goes bowling to escape reality instead of bar flirting like my W. Seems to me to be pretty selfish to put bowling over talking about important family matters. I bet he relies on the advise of his bowling buddies over you.
I can understand your anger. Your H is not really consulting or getting your opinion about huge changes. He is telling his mom what he has planned before you. He is trying to control his whole family life decisions without talking it through fully with you.
If only you can make him understand that one should not make such rash decisions in such a short time period.
