So you know what? Why can't you GAL even while you're staying there. Maybe just do those things that you normally wouldn't. That would be changing it up and showing her that. Even if it's not what she's looking for (because she is so down right now), at least you'll be doing a 180 for yourself.
I agree - I need to get out and do things. The weather is really bad here, so I don't feel like driving around a whole lot. D and I went out tonight for a while and left W at home (I'd have asked W to come along, but she put her jammies on at 6:30). I feel like I'm in a crappy routine and not really doing the best things that I could for myself, but I still want to have dinner with W and D.
I know I'm going to have so much crap to do when I move, so I'm making the most of the time I have now when I can relax
Originally Posted By: JennyF
Funny thing is I know my H is basically flaked out on the couch over at his Mom's right now! It is there that he seems to go into his little depression (which basically means he sleeps all time). So if they wanted all this change, why are they doing the same thing? One can only hope that at SOME POINT they will realize WE are not the problem!
I think 'the same thing' for them is really just their coping skills at work - They do the most basic activities they can handle, and that's about it. Obviously depression really limits their ability to commit to things and put a lot of energy into activities.
