I think in these sitch's it's about the WAS usually going for someone who is needy. Someone who can make them feel important or basically better than they really feel.
A WAS typically goes for someone who is an 'easy target' - Their self esteem is low, so it doesn't take much to find someone who makes them feel better about themselves. Of course, the big picture is that this situation my W has put herself in has pretty much ruined her financially and seems to drive her into a deeper depression every time she talks about it.
Originally Posted By: JennyF
Brit this is interesting (I use that word a lot...). Your W seems so dependant on you, do you think that your W is looking for someone to take care of or someone to look up to her?
If my W is dependent on me, this is the first time since we've been together - My W is fiercely independent, or at least, she likes to make out that she is. She has spent her whole life in relationships where she is taking care of someone, or being a 'mommy figure'. She says she hates it and it's unhealthy, but she keeps doing it over and over. A lot with her is that she has a major issue with trust, so if she has a relationship where she is in control (or she thinks she is), then it is a way for her to protect herself.
I think originally she liked the attention and the independence that came from not having to be 'wife' or 'mommy' all the time. She could go out, drink, party and all that crap.
