day by day

[ediemarie]

Hi LWB - i think there are a lot of positives in that conversation - it sounds like your H is enjoying your time together, he knows what it will take to make your M work, he said he's willing to do it, he knows it's going to take a lot of work, his eyes are opening to OW, and I think he is hesitant because he doesn't know if you're willing to put up with him as he transitions, changes, tries to work this out. - that was a fear with my H as well - he said most of the same stuff to me that your H told you.

I guess you have to decide what you really want. Do you want to wait and see if he can change and pull himself out of this? I think while we are DBing we lose sight of the needs of our spouses - I know it's difficult to think that they have needs or should even have them met by us - but to me, it sounded like your H wanted to see where you were at - to see if you'd be willing to really wait for him to figure this stuff out. To be paitent as he does the work to fix things. I think he was looking for reassurance from you that it could be fixed and that you would be happy with your M restored. AND, I think there *is* hope and I know retrouvaille could help you guys tremendously.

Take care!!