HELP!! my 25 y/o H walked out... maybe mlc? HELP!!

[darkestangel]

I was a bit of a nag. it was so hard, H would go to work, come home and think he was done. I never felt like he met me halfway.

I started working p/t 3 months before he dropped the bomb. He wanted me to quit, and we argued about it alot. I felt we needed the extra money, and since d3 was starting preschool, I figured that I might as well work. We only had 1 car at the time, so it was hard. H worked graveyard, 5:30pm- 9:30pm, 11pm-3am. I worked 8am- 12pm.

Incidently, he told em today that he changed his schedule to 2:30pm- 11pm. OMG!! I asked him to do that our ENTIRE marriage so we would have time together we a family and we could be together at night. NOW he does it??

I am a nag, I admit. i wish now I would've kept my mouth shut. I wish now I would have been more on "his side".

A few days post-bomb, he told me he felt like he could never make me happy. He felt like he never deserved me.

He completley denies ever saying that now.

I did all the cooking, all the cleaning, msot of the d3 care. H spent lots of money friviously, and I spent very very little on myself. Too little in fact. Maybe if I had spent more and done less, there would be less resentment? Maybe if I had known this bomb was coming, I would've "leveled the playing field" a bit. I always felt like I had to pick up the slack, like I had to parent him too.

The last few months were very stressed. We hardly saw each other because of our opposite schedules, and when we saw each other, we bickered. I still carried the burden of taking care of everything in the house, worked p/t and enrolled in college. Before taking on the job, i told him that I would need his help because I couldn't do it on my own. That was in September.

BTW, H called. He's not coming by tonight. Said he had other plans. Gee, I wonder with who?