FIB cares. DEEPLY. So do I frank. And I am divorced.
What we learn is that we DEEPLY care but we cannot control it, so we do for US.
I need not to care WHAT SHE IS DOING. I'll always CARE. Is there a reason you need to pick my words apart?
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It's not about her any more, she's crazy.
No she is not. That is YOU rationalizing that you are right and she is wrong, 0/100. Nothing more.
No it isn't. Her behaviors are contradictory, which in my mind is a little 'crazy'.
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She only measures her life with me by what she DOESN'T have. Not by what she DOES have.
So. Does she OWE you frank?
I repeat, does she OWE you??????
You "saved her"??? So she owes you?
You saved YOU two years ago. Only YOU. Let that fact sink in. Think hard.
When did I say she 'owes me'? Her words: "I'm not happy, I don't have the fulfilling life I want. 'Other people' have happy lives. 'Other people' feel love deeply. I'm sorry I couldn't make my marriage work. I'm sorry I can't keep my commitment/vows".
Um, we still have our home. She knows I love her. She says she loves me. Our kids are healthy. The foundation for a good life is all here, she only had to come to the table and HELP me build it. Inside I am still the same man, with the same potential when given the proper support to get out of my hole in the ground.
That's what we HAVE.
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It's about me now. I know this will get easier after a while.
It will get easier only if. Only if YOU change for YOU.
Correct.
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But what about her? Kick her to the curb?? I can go on - think about it. What do YOU want here??
I think we're beyond the 'kick her to the curb' conversation. I have no intention of doing that. What do I want? I want to be a better man, like I used to be. I want a wife who appreciates me even when I'm down.
What do you want? Why are you focusing your anger at me? What is it about you that you are angry about because I can tell that your comments aren't about me. What's going on Jeff?
