I'm curious - How much time spent with your H would you consider 'useful'.
Brit...do you mean before he left or now?
It is funny that you mention this though because when H was here, I wouldn't do a lot, especially in the evenings. We both had gotten ourselves into the rutt of sitting on the couch once D was in bed and just watching TV. I don't watch TV at all any more, in fact I have to tell myself every now and then to just sit my butt on the couch and veg! H was always a lazy guy at night...TV was his way of relaxing and boy did he do a lot of it. I could go and on about how this affected us...but instead I'll say that it NOW feels good not to have the TV on as much. Not to mention being able to watch what I want. Although, I REALLY miss watching hockey games with him...it was one of my favorite things to do. Since I'm on Mat leave I have the day to accomplish lots of things so my evenings are now pretty open...I'm usually on the computer once the kids are in bed as you can tell!
Did I answer your question? J~
M 35 H 29 M 4 yrs T 9 yrs D 3 S born 10/19/07 Bomb 09/10/07 Separated next day OW - broke up and H moved out 09/07/08 Status - still figuring this out