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Still cycling through the anxiety when W is around

Good. That is in your control. Good.

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Like FIB, I need to learn not to care.

Is that what you learned? Not to care?

FIB cares. DEEPLY. So do I frank. And I am divorced.

What we learn is that we DEEPLY care but we cannot control it, so we do for US.

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It's not about her any more, she's crazy.

No she is not. That is YOU rationalizing that you are right and she is wrong, 0/100. Nothing more.

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She only measures her life with me by what she DOESN'T have. Not by what she DOES have.

So. Does she OWE you frank?

I repeat, does she OWE you??????

You "saved her"??? So she owes you?

You saved YOU two years ago. Only YOU. Let that fact sink in. Think hard.

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It's about me now. I know this will get easier after a while.

It will get easier only if. Only if YOU change for YOU.

But what about her?

Kick her to the curb??

I can go on - think about it. What do YOU want here??

Jeff

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