Welcome to MLC forum SPM! I think anger and depression from the WAS can mean multiple things, whether it is male or female. My H was very angry and withdrawn at the beginning of his EA, and especially right after I found out. Then he leveled out, but lately has been very negative and depressed, his face looks so old. I guess we can hope that anger and depression is working in our favor!
Being that you had time to DB when you were still together and since you've been separated, do you care to offer an opinion on which way you prefer? ps- are you still DBing?