The very act of me not getting very invested is quite likely to trigger her, or at least allow her, to become more invested.
Could you explain why you believe this to be true?
It jibes with things I've read and with my own observations. The short version is that when one person in the R takes responsibility for "putting on the brakes" and keeping the R level manageable, it frees the other person and they become more and more comfortable being "relationshippy" because they learn they can trust the OP to not let the R develop. I've been on both sides of that equation.
Myself, being the sexually-bonded type, I am extremely skeptical about the ability to *maintain* wolf-exclusive relationships ... or the desirability of developing that ability.
Right. "Maintaining" is not a feature of a wolf-exclusive R.
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