Dom, you have some significant control issues and you're using this board as an outlet for them and as an escape from the repercussions. If you can start putting the effort you currently expend exhorting others to self-improvement into your own self-improvement, I suspect that it wouldn't be long before your life was much happier and you had more pertinent insights to share here.
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