Dom, Did you not read Karen's previous post all the way through? Her H has already clearly stated that the children come first. What would be the point of her H taking another job for less money if he just fills that time with the kids over Karen?
Your overall point is correct that it is ideal for both people to make the marriage a priority. However as you can tell from your own situation FORCING someone to make the same decision you do is pretty tough work...
In the end the person has to chose for themselves to do the work. I think it is pretty common knowledge that you cannot force someone to break an addiction although of course wanting someone to quit smoking, drinking, doing drugs, gambling, etc. would be best for them and all involved with them. The only way for the person to break their addiction is for them to WANT to break it. Of course you can help, cajole, threaten, etc. but it is still the addict's choice and not yours to make. We might wish it were not that way but that does not change the fact that people have to make their own decisions.
But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus
