I know it's a disturbing thought, but there's a reason they put that little "v" between the parties of a divorce proceeding -- you're adversaries at that point. I was merely offering the advice along the line of oden's "don't leave the posts lying around," because you need all of your OWN resources that you can muster, without your husband tainting the process.
I hated that I had to do some of the snooping I did, but I was also the guy on the SSM message board that SWORE "oh, my wife would NEVER have an affair!"
