Your situation seems so agonizing. You seem so close to having her back, but yet so far.
I think a lot of the anger and frustration has gone from both sides, but she's not in any mental place to commit to anything right now. She can hardly handle day to day activities without forgetting things, running out of money, or just being so late that nothing gets done.
Originally Posted By: KerryK
I dont recommend it until you really are totally out of energy and patience, but there is Michelle's final last resort technique where you file for a D. It may be just the wake up call your W needs to get her act together. However, there would be no guarantee that she would not go back to being the depressed person she is now if the D was stopped.
I don't think filing would get me anywhere right now - I think she'd be pretty confused as to why I was doing it, but I don't think she'd suddenly change her ways overnight. You really can't 'shake' someone out of depression - She needs the time to work through it and figure herself out. At least from where I'm standing, she's so much worse off now than she was a year ago. Things were not perfect, but at least she seemed like she was having fun and had a consistent routine that worked for her - Now she just drifts from day to day and never really does much.
I'll probably hold off on D until she either ends up so out of control I don't want anything to do with her (I don't see that happening - I can't see why she'd get significantly worse all of a sudden), or there is a compelling personal reason to file. The D wouldn't really change a whole lot, plus I think me filing would send her the wrong message. Maybe one day it would come to that, but I don't see W filing any time soon either.
