How do I begin piecing??

[MichelleLT]

Since our H's seem to be twins I will comment that I wonder that about my H a lot - he takes his time before he wants to talk about things and it usually is at bizarre times when he finally does lol. I think like a lot of this process it is part of changing the dynamic. I know with my H I always vented to him and never kept secrets, plus just generally talked a lot. I'm sure that contributed to him not talking as much. So I know if H and I reconcile I will have to bite my tongue a lot before he starts really talking to me again. Perhaps your H is similar?

I have my fingers crossed about that job for your H.

I am also sure the thoughts will become less painful over time - time heals all wounds and all. I don't know if this thought amuses you, but I bet OW felt the same way and a lot of things reminded your H about you while he was living with OW. H was obviously thinking about you. It works on all fronts, and it worked to your advantage because he moved to be with you. You are winning the war lol.