yesterday, as I was saying goodnight to them on the phone, one of them told me that he wished we could be a 5-family again. Wonder if she even heard that. Dont think so; i'm guessing she was too busy doing other things. Which, sadly, is probably why he said it then.
I think they're too nervous or worn out to ask her about that any more. So they are asking me. Asking Daddy to Save Our Family. I wish I knew what I could do, other than "wait and be patient"
Dom I think we all know that pain those questions can bring. I know my kids, especially D9 will hit me with that occasionally. They really are looking to someone to guide them and show them how conflict can be resolved. They really, really want to learn these lessons. Not to mention have their families back together and all the safety and security an intact family brings to them.
If you kids are like mine they are afraid of asking Mommy. Mine won't because they don't want to make Mommy cry. That's really, really sad to know they bottle up their own hurt like that. That they feel they only cause pain. If only our wives could set their own pain aside briefly to realize how this is so badly hurting our children. That if we worked hard on us and our marriages in the end we'd all benefit greatly.
Ah but logic isn't something that works now is it.
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
