Brit -

Your situation seems so agonizing. You seem so close to having her back, but yet so far.

I dont recommend it until you really are totally out of energy and patience, but there is Michelle's final last resort technique where you file for a D. It may be just the wake up call your W needs to get her act together. However, there would be no guarantee that she would not go back to being the depressed person she is now if the D was stopped.

I feel for what you are going through.