Still waiting to hear about my brother--the kids and I are having a Movie day to try to distract me from it all! I'm sure he'll be fine though; the doctors are supposed to be some of the best!
Thanks for all the supportive comments although I probably do not deserve them after yesterday! Theoden, I printed out your latest and added it to some of my other printouts that I keep. You have some really great insights as usual! H does really know how to push my buttons, and I react like his puppet or something when he does that, I am very bad sometimes at having self control when he name calls or insults. I really have to work on that, and that will be on my "list of topics" when my therapist gets back from vacation in 2 weeks (I'm counting the days)!
I'm sad to hear your comments that you think H will leave the church, although he has started to already. I had been hoping that the church and/or the pastor could help him, and that would be a way for him to regain some of his sanity or whatever it is that H has lost (he seems so different now like an alien or whatever you want to call it).
I do want to DB as that is more my style typically. The detaching is the hardest, I think the easiest way to do that might be as I was thinking just to stay away from him completely on my most stressful days?
I started jogging a month or so ago and would eventually like to work up to running when I get in good enough shape. About 2 weeks ago I started doing Pilates with weights, so hopefully that would qualify as you suggest for exercise? I have already lost 30 pounds and am hoping to lose about 10 more.
I do think a really good suggestion (although my husband will HATE it!) is the idea to treat myself and spend money on myself which I have NEVER done! He does treat me like an unpaid servant who as he said "works for room and board". So I think that would be really good not only for me, but for him as well to see me showing that I am strong enough to stand up for myself in that way which I should have done years ago. I'm not planning on going crazy with the money, but I'm sure just even spending a small amount on getting some new clothes I really need to get now that I've lost weight for example will probably drive him crazy!!! Karen43
