She's ready to move on

[Michael Mc C]

Neither of us has filed nor is there any immediate plan for that, oddly enough.

It's funny you ask though because I was going to add to some thoughts about this to my thread.

W's reason for not moving forward is because we live in a community property state (you've gone further in this process than I have so maybe you have some insight into this). Our C told us that in order for us to get the D, she would need to get an "allowance" that will help support her and the kids and the only way that could happen, given our financial situation, is if we sell the house. Something she refuses to have happen because I bought it from my father.

So she is waiting for one of the following (maybe more options than what I've come up with):

- She isn't 100% sure about leaving the marriage
- She wants to wait until she has a good enough job to support herself and the kids without any input from me
- She's waiting for a new "soul mate" to pick her up, along with all of her debts

Right now she is definitely cake-eating. This is killing me because she says she wants out but is taking no action and she isn't exactly working stellar hours to support herself (in our home) let alone a separate household and 3 kids.

If given the opportunity she will probably stay here until she gets her associates degree because she feels that will get her a decent job in the field. Meanwhile she obtains all of her validation and ego boosts from strangers on the internet ("they're not strangers, they're friends, I talk to them outside of the game too - MySpace, emails, etc.")

It's a tough sitch right now because I can't figure out which way to turn here. Do I just ignore her or do I push for some kind of movement? NUTS.