Don't listen to those discouraging people! Seriously! They just want us to stop hurting and they think if we "let go" and "get over it" that will be the best way. It is so hard to get discouraging feedback from those closest to you. A lot of my loved ones said stuff that was very ugly and vituperative about my man, and hurtful towards me. I realized I just can't expect people who don't have the DB mindset to have the DB mindset! And I let that stuff slide off my back like I am made of teflon!
Also... this gives me comfort so maybe it will help you too? Maybe the marriage is totally over, totally dead. But that doesn't stop us from creating a brand new, amazing, fulfilling marriage beyond our wildest hopes and dreams. And we will be in a much better position to do that now that we have started DB'ing. You get what I'm saying?
