Did you ever reply to B's wife? Maybe just tell her more or less straight out what you wrote here....while you don't harbor resentments to your wife, B, or her, that you really find the situation awkward and won't pretend that you are happy with just being the same group of friends...minus being married. Maybe, since she could communicate what you say to her to your wife, you should be cautious and also try to get your message across. Something along the lines of, "I'm not mad at you, but I just feel that it's not healthy for me to hang with you, Brian, and my STBX like nothing happened. I'd really like to move forward, kind of fresh. We could hang out together sometime, but I really don't want it to be part of the package deal that includes my wife and B." I don't know. She's not my "friend". Is she yours? If you don't really care to associate with her, then just say, "I'm not mad at you.." and leave it at that.
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She called me today - thanking me for telling her about the sale. I thought that was sort of strange, and further thought it was strange she tried to make small talk about other stuff, too. I finally had to cut the conversation short by telling her my dinner was almost done (a small lie - the water had just started to boil).
Is that a marker of guilt? Her noticing that I've been more or less cold-shouldering her?
Doubtful a marker of guilt. You called her and gave her info on something. She was being polite in responding. And small talk is possible with your spouse/STBX. I've been divorced 10 years from my first XW and she'll still make small talk. It doesn't mean anything. It's what people do. Do you question why people at work make small talk with you?
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