My wife admitted to having a PA with her EA guy. Happened two weeks ago. We have three kids. I opened my home to this guy. Brought him to church with our family, he played with my kids. This is tough. Real tough. Before admitting to the affair (after I pretty much caught her red handed), she was very close to being a WAW. She felt horrible for a few days and things actually looked up and I thought maybe she came to her senses. She said she wanted to give our marriage a try. Now she is willing to see if we can make it work, but she is pretty hopeless. Right now she says her main needs are: For me to get a life. To bring something to our marriage. She needs to laugh, and for me to get on a more equal level intellectually with her.
Michele is right. I need to get a life. Bring something to the marriage. Let my wife see me in a more confident, positive light. I feel time slipping away, however. I think a have a few months to help her raise an eyebrow at me. But I'm in such a horrible funk. I can't eat, sleep, or anything. I've tried the DB thing the best I could over the last few months, and I'm spent. Physically and emotionally. I've never seen a doctor about antidepressants or meds for anxiety or anything before.
Where do I begin? Are there any that have actually helped people on this board? Any specifically that I can ask my doctor about?
How do they actually work? Do they really give you a more positive outlook on life while taking them? How do they make you feel? I just need to be picked up a little, so I can get myself out of bed and face the day a little easier.
