I read your thread. I am sad to hear your H had an affair for 2 years before you knows. Knowing by nocking on your door. That must be shocking! What are they thinking, that they can do everything without concequenses? I will believe that he wasn't feeling good for a few years. With a doublelife you can't!!! Iam dealing with the same. My H was saying the same words. I didn't feel good for a long time. But after asking how long I analized (maybe wrong, but it's good to know) more and more that unhappyness started when OW was in the picture. H admitted that too! They are not only in MLC they are being brainwaved too. Well what chance do we have here? A new relationship is not the one you have when your 34y together. Thats for sure. And the kids of you, well they have the right to feel this way too. What were the last two years all about? They are smart. They do think such things. Its hard to see them struckle too. At least they are old enough that they can say no to see OW. Thats the fear of my S(22). That she will be around some day with sailing or even stay in front of his home. (she is a bit bossy and pushy) How do I have to act than is his question. Well thats not up to me (dont ask that to me, because Iam soooooooooo MAD) S told H to keep her away!! But does he do that when she's pushing?
I hope you and your son's will be ok. Maybe on and off. I know how it go's thats for sure! Hang in there. Love Merel
