Don't Push!!! A Newbies MUST Read.

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The what to tell the kids stuff is excruciating. H & I were in MC last week and I asked him how he pictures telling the kids. He thinks we should say something like "our marriage has problems." Of course, we don't argue and have always been affectionate and loving in front of them, so does he think they're going to buy that? I suggested that we stage some fights in front of them.

I said I was uncomfortable going along with that idea since I am here wanting to make our M better and he refuses. Then he said firmly, staring at me in a scolding way: "I know we'll do what's best for the kids. That's what's important--what's best for them."

HEL-LO! Could it possibly be BEST for them for their dad to commit to the marriage he, um, already committed to 15 years ago? I didn't say that.

I don't know how you arrive at these decisions. I can't imagine my H ever getting up the nerve to really tell the kids because he wouldn't have told me how unhappy he was in our M unless I forced it out of him.

Grace--no, I am not really ready for another man. I just feel like the end of my M is inevitable at this point, so why drag it out. I'd rather be available for a new R sooner than later, you know?