All I can say is it will be very difficult for her to combine work and D7 without me.
Why are you assuming that W will have primary custody of D7? If she is so driven on the career side, D7 is probably better off with daddy--who works to live and not vice versa. At the very least, I would shoot for 50/50.
If you become a weekend dad, you are surrendering D7 to W, MIL, and all of those other people you don't approve of. She will learn about how grownups act from them, not you, because that will be the example she sees on a daily basis. Your duty to her is far greater than to your W, or even yourself.
Have you consulted an attorney yet? It seems to me that you are letting your W drive this train because you are hurt and want to get away. I don't blame you for feeling that way, but with D7 involved, you need to get mad. Not yell hit and act stupid mad, but stand up for yourself and your kid mad. Your W might even respect you more for standing up for yourself.
Sorry for preaching. I am one of those dads that passed on the high-power career so that I could raise my boys. No way would I give them up without a huge fight.
