husband, I have noticed you seem to be regretting what you have done in the past, and I think if you had come in full force (exposing the A, being angry, not making room for her hurt) you would have driven her away even further. By being patient and kind, you are showing her its safe to stay. There will be time to talk about your hurt in the future.
LWB,
Didn't mean to throw a damp rag on your thread.... No I don't really "regret" any of the things I have done. EVER. Even the things that lead up to the affair. I don't becasue I have learned by them. Each of us have to deal with our sitches the way we feel we need to. No body is right or wrong just diferant. and Yes Saffie I don't know for sure if OM is still doing this but I know his past and this is a trend... I just errased a bunch of stuff becasue I don't want to start making this look like the Clintion / Obama debate ( did you see that last night??. Om is not my Problem at this point. take care LWB, YES WE have come along way.. It does feel nice that Our spouses are reaching out in little ways... and yes it is "Possible". I would have pushed my W farther away if I exposed the A in the begining. But.... We will noever know...
take care Dr. Love
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
