Ongoing affair, D papers filed, advice wanted

[SirPrizeMe]

A couple weeks ago she gave me a letter - the letter she wrote on the day she filed for divorce two months ago. In it she described her feelings about me and the marriage, how it was irreconcilable. How I was abusive. How she loved me once, but no longer. It was a typed letter. She had written at the top "I guess it's finally time to give you this..."

Accompanying that letter was a bunch of other stuff, materials that describe domestic violence, emotional abuse, "how to tell if he's really stopping", and so on. Also a list of DV remediation programs.

I didn't ask for the letter. I didn't ask for an explanation of her actions.

It was hard for me to read. I didn't respond to this packet of stuff, except to say, "let me think about this and respond more thoughtfully, later." I never followed up.

Seems like she was reaching out. An opportunity for me to listen, learn, validate. I never responded.