well, all hell broke loose, it is over and done

[BeingMe]

Okay, this is just my opinion, but that OW is playing him like a fiddle. Where is his concern for how his children are doing, and what this is going to do to their lives? I am sorry, Cat, you are a strong, loving woman, but surely, surely, you are not going to let him pull you around by the nose. Do you really want this man for a H, for a father of your children ... the way he is now? I think he knows he's got you where he wants you. This OW has made her choices in life ... no-one forced her to sell herself (if, indeed, she did), and your H is a fool to think he is responsible for her. He is responsible for his children, and possibly you, and himself.

I wish you well, and hope I haven't been too harsh. I am looking in, and I am sure I must be missing something here. No matter what your H does, what boundaries you put up, he just tramples all over it, and does as he pleases, then rushes off crying to the C. I think you need to start getting some distance.

Eek, hope I haven't overstepped the boundaries meself. Take care of yourself. You deserve so much better than this.