2 years? Man he's being cheap. Most states say spousal support is 1/3 to 1/2 of the time married. I've been married almost 7 years and I'm about to pay about 3 years.... You may want to talk to a lawyer....
Oh, believe you me, I will speak to my lawyer. He is the same one who handled my first divorce. The only reason I am considering H's offer is because my 401K is worth three times what his is, and I don't want that on the table.
Enjoy yourself tonight, just don't get too sick tomorrow... Everybody needs a little rum sometimes, or wine, or Bailey's, or.... Anyway, with the crap we are all going through, if the worse you do is have a little (or a lot) to drink, that is so not a big deal!
I know, Sir. Even though you know it's coming at some point, the reality is gut-wrenching.
I hope I didn't blow it too much after he informed my that he had filed. He originally said he was going to wait till summer. I tried to explain that once we're D'd, I could no longer remain on his medical plan at work and that he would have to pay exorbitant medical payments through COBRA. He didn't see why that should be, but he will find out I'm right. I was just trying to save him/us some big $$.
This is why I think he may have an OW, or at least be dating now. He's speeding up the time line for dissolution.
Plus, H wants to relocate to CA, but I'm not sure he'll be any happier there. Wherever you go, there you are, right?
He is clinically depressed, and on meds. That still never stopped his black moods all these years, and when he gets something into his head, he just goes full bore with a very narrow focus.
I just want to back off and avoid him and his process server for awhile. Any ideas on how to avoid being served? :):):)
Kimmie what state are you in??? Can you contest the D and ask judge to order MC for a few weeks?
You can always change attornies a couple times, usually your attorney can come up with a couple ways to slow down court date. What is your attorney saying to you? have you tried DB coaching? I know I am going to give it a try and set up tomorrow. I would invest the $$$ in a coach session or two. grid, lost
-Love of dogs, every time I loose a dog to the bridge,part of my heart goes too. Ever time a puppy/dog comes into my life,he gives me a part of his heart. If live my life long enough, in time I'll have the heart of a puppy. -unknown (w/character limit)
Just my view - No point in avoiding being served papers. if you are looking to delay, there are plenty of opportunities. You can, for example, wait until the last moment to acknowledge being served. That's usually 30 days I think.
And there are lots of other things to do. Explain to your attorney where you are, what you want.
M 43 S14 S13 D11 D7 Divorce final: Jan 2009 Making it up as I go....
I am in a town a bit north of Seattle, WA, which means no-fault divorce. It can be final in 90 short days.
I'm putting my lawyer on retainer today and I will not communicate directly with my H from now on. He's too devious and my heart is broken because I trusted him so much.
Oh, I am going to ask for three years maintenance and two years medical coverage.
