It sometimes seems possible or even likely that the WAS has come to hate their life "as they currently percieve it to be". They got everything they thought they wanted. Now they think they should have wanted something else.
That is not to say we were wrong for them or a failure. We were in fact exactly what they wanted. Only something made them change their mind about what they wanted their life to be. And we became the target of their disappointment and anger. "We" must be what is wrong and keeping them from going after happiness somewhere else.
We did not lie to them or force them to change their mind about what makes them happy. They did this to themself. Oh, we can say life did it, or MLC, or whatever. But we must allow them to own their new destiny without martyring ourselves.
You didn't lie to them about who you are, so don't lie to yourself now about who you are, or who has rejected the life you happily built together.
