Grace O, Hey there! I just read the top of this thread and you said you really don't know where your H is in all of this. I was just curious if he has shown major signs of replay at all. It almost sounds to me like he is still in the denial stage. I am not saying this to scare you or to make you think that this is just the beginning of his MLC, as I don't know too much about your situation. I can recall my H telling me once in 2005, and once again in 2006 that he really wasn't sure if we should be together, and that he was thinking we should seperate, and that he was thinking of moving out. But after each of those conversations we had, the next day he would act like nothing happened and we would go on with life. My H continued to drink heavier and get very depressed and verbally abusive to me during those years before the actual real bomb/moving out. Once my H moved out he hit EXTREME REPLAY-no one could miss it, it was so obvious that that was the stage he was in. I guess my point in all of this is to try and help you see that maybe your H is still at the beginning stages of MLC, because if and when they are in replay: it is usually so very obvious. I am not trying to scare you, I am only trying to prepare you for what may come - if you have not seen it (replay) allready. I will apologize ahead of time if I am way off base here, as I don't know your sitch to well. Oh, and good for you taking classes, just remember that THE ONE THING that no one can ever take away from us is the knowledge you attain from learning! TIPPER
