Newsflash for WolfPack

[Burgbud]

(Kett( You can keep things on a seasonal level until your kids are older, then see if you're interested in a lifetime pass....

Any woman who would keep things at a seasonal level that long would be very invested in the R, whereas I wouldn't allow myself to get very invested in the R. The very act of me not getting very invested is quite likely to trigger her, or at least allow her, to become more invested. In engineering speak, it's an inherently unstable equilibrium.


(Lil) Burg, if your kids played in a band every single Wednesday night and on one particular Wednesday night, you saw a stranger get hit by a car, there was no one else to accompany the stranger to the ER, AND the person's life was in danger, I would expect you to go to the ER.

And I would, and my boys would have no problem with that. But that was my choice without expectation. I can't have anyone sitting at home with a reasonable expectation that if something happens they can call me. The scenario doesn't have to be an emergency, it could be anything a woman would expect her boyfriend to support her in with his presence. A function for work, a meaningful birthday, a family visit, whatever.

Beyond that, I'd break pre-existing plans if I had an unexpected opportunity to be with the kids (interestingly, I don't necessarily break other pre-existing plans that I make...I deserve to have a life. I'm just not going to let another relationship out prioritize my relationship with the boys, not at this point). Beyond even that, I think there's decent possibility that I'll have primary custody of the kids within two years.

Any woman who would put up with all that uncertainty is someone who really digs me. I have a certain fondness for people who really dig me and I don't like to see them get hurt. I especially don't like to be the instrument of their hurt.

My bf told me from day one that his kids and his mom would always come first.

I'm not willing to get into a serious relationship with anybody until I'm also willing to put them first, at least occasionally.


(Mojo) I want everything to be light and romantic.

I don't blame you a bit. I think you're crazy because your recent trend is to get involved with men who want to make the R heavier than you require.