Thanks for the positive words, guys. I left H alone after he went back to work at noon. Got a text at 4:15 as I was driving the kids to my mom's in Iowa H: No apt or furniture; going to talk to [boss' boss] tomorrow see what is really going on
WTF? So I don't know what that means for us. He didn't specifically say, "I am not moving out". He just said no furniture no apartment. Initially in Nov. he mentioned moving in with a bachelor buddy from work, but he never actually picked out a specific guy, just said it would be cheaper to live w/someone else. So that could be the plan. Or tomorrow after talking with the Big Boss, if he finds out his job is safe, he may resume the move-out plans. It kind of sucks either way bc now if he stays, it would be for $$ reasons, not R reasons. So I'd always be waiting for the other shoe to drop. When $$ isn't a problem, will he take off? I am going to continue to act "as if" we are separated--even though he never actually moved out --unless and until he says he is staying here bc he wants us to work on things together. That means I will continue not to call him first or reach out to him first. I did reply to his TM, but I waited an hour. Then I just wished him luck on the meeting w/the boss and told him I hope he keeps his job. I did NOT mention the furniture, the apt., or our R. OH, and I got a message on my original thread "Please Help Me Re. My Confused Husband" on the For Newcomers Board. A couple people were getting confused bc I have been posting in two places and they have to jump around to get my story. I started there, but added stuff here once I knew H wanted to separate. So from now on I am only going to post on that board. So look for me under "Confused Husband". I will continue to "lurk" on this board as I am wrapped up in some of your stories and will continue to post replies to you! Thanks for all the help guys....
--unless and until he says he is staying here bc he wants us to work on things together. That means I will continue not to call him first or reach out to him first. I did reply to his TM, but I waited an hour. Then I just wished him luck on the meeting w/the boss and told him I hope he keeps his job. I did NOT mention the furniture, the apt., or our R. 
